Disclaimer: This article is not intended to guide you towards seeking harmful actions against anyone, including narcissists. There are healthy and constructive ways to address difficult situations or relationships.
Always remember:
The best way to deal with narcissists is not to deal with them at all.
Narcissists have already hurt you enough. Is it worth giving them another opportunity to harm you?
Narcissists can stoop to any level to protect themselves or their image. They have no shame in lying to your face.
Maintain a realistic viewpoint that the world may perceive you as a villain for standing up for yourself in front of narcissists.
1. No contact
Narcissists are attention seekers, requiring constant admiration and the presence of people around them to bolster their self-esteem.
They often target kind-hearted individuals to devalue. Therefore, it’s essential to sever this supply.
Block both the narcissists and their enablers on all social media platforms. Refrain from validating their behavior or sharing any personal information.
Opting for a no-contact approach is a significant stride in ceasing rumination about them. If complete no-contact isn’t possible, the next advisable course is maintaining low-contact.
2. Create a list of things that narcissists have told you that you’re not good at or discouraged you from trying. Then, embark on a journey to try each one, step by step.
This approach can serve as an excellent avenue to discover new hobbies. Embrace it as an opportunity to acquire fresh skills.
Learning these skills will not only enhance your confidence but also contribute to your self-esteem. In fact, you might even find opportunities to monetize some of them.
3. Compile a list of the troubling actions they have inflicted upon you and determine whether any of them warrant legal action.
Safeguard all digital and physical evidence to be prepared in case they attempt to manipulate the situation.
Bullying can be readily substantiated in the digital realm. Preserve the texts/emails they’ve directed at you and secure them diligently.
Even if you have no immediate intention of pursuing legal action, retaining this evidence could prove beneficial in the future should they escalate their disruptive behavior.
4. Accumulate a substantial amount of money.
Money holds considerable influence, whether we view it positively or otherwise. Increased financial resources can provide access to improved services, including a proficient legal team.
Additionally, money empowers you to exit abusive relationships and secure a future free from dependence on narcissists.
Contemplate initiating your own business—this route stands as one of the most effective strategies to ensure you avoid working under or with narcissistic individuals.
5. Prioritize your health to reclaim lost time.
Narcissists have consumed a significant portion of your time and energy, eroding your confidence, self-esteem, and sense of individuality.
A vital step towards extending your lifespan involves dedicating attention to both your physical and mental well-being. This practice holds the potential to add years to your life.
6. Do not miss any opportunity to discuss their negative actions with others.
Proceed with caution; be mindful of who you confide in and the details you share.
Open up about your experiences to trusted friends or family members who comprehend the situation.
Recognize the value systems upheld by your community. If the narcissist‘s behavior contradicts these values, discussing such actions may garner more support compared to attempting to educate people about narcissism itself.
For instance, while gaslighting might be complex to explain, actions like cheating or lying are more relatable.
Therefore, focus on discussing these aspects rather than investing time in explaining gaslighting.
7. Compile a comprehensive list of their vulnerabilities and weaknesses.
This exercise will illuminate their profound fragility and insecurity, revealing that you possess a deeper understanding of them than they do of themselves.
This compilation serves as a potent weapon against their manipulative maneuvers. Armed with these insights, you can effectively counter their tactics.
It might even unsettle them slightly, realizing that others perceive them in stark contrast to the carefully crafted image they struggle to project.
8. Exercise patience and await the opportune moment to respond.
Narcissists are not known for their patience. They instinctively react when their ego is wounded, considering consequences as an afterthought.
Your response should differ from theirs; hold off on reacting while the narcissist is still in a reactive state. Allow them to unveil their unattractive traits for all to witness.
If you find yourself lacking the necessary resources—be they emotional, mental, physical, or financial—to confront the narcissist at present, bide your time.
The more people they alienate, the more significant the repercussions they will ultimately face. You can even unite with others in a similar situation to collectively confront them, as seen in movements like “MeToo.”
9. Ensure that you avoid inadvertently assisting other narcissists (especially in popular culture).
Direct your support towards businesses that are operated by abuse survivors.
Refrain from dedicating your time or resources to individuals who openly promote sexism, racism, or classism.
Make a conscious decision not to endorse their ventures.
10. True revenge lies in moving forward and embracing a joyful life.
The ultimate revenge is embodying the finest iteration of yourself while leaving the narcissists behind.
Surface-level achievements may ignite their jealousy, but your objective should center on living life on your own terms, regardless of their opinions.
Additional resources:
https://www.simplypsychology.org/how-to-hurt-a-narcissist.html
https://happyproject.in/get-revenge-on-narcissist/
https://abusewarrior.com/abuse/20-ways-to-take-revenge-on-a-narcissist/