“My dad had limitations. That’s what my good-hearted mom always told us. He had limitations, but he meant no harm. It was kind of her to say, but he did do harm.”
― Gone Girl
Here are a few Mother’s Day gift ideas to help you shortlist the present you want to buy for your mothers in narcissistic family systems.
Mother’s Day is celebrated across the world to express our gratitude and love for our mothers. Many mothers in our families live amidst narcissistic family systems.
Women have long been raised to believe that family is everything and their first priority should be that – which is nothing but a hoax for patriarchy to get free labor from women.
Patriarchy does not even acknowledge the efforts women put into raising their families.
There are narcissistic mothers too, but most women act very selflessly when it comes to their family. Probably the only person who will love you with all your flaws is your mother.
Let us take this opportunity to thank them for keeping it together for our sakes – they usually take all the brunt of narcissists to protect her children. Some of them don’t even know they themselves are victims of the system.
“You are evidence of your mother’s strength, especially if you are a rebellious knucklehead and regardless she has always maintained her sanity.”
― Killosophy
Let’s explore 10 Mother’s Day gift ideas that you can personalize for your mother.
1. Yoga/Workout Sessions
Sponsoring an activity that can improve your mother’s physical health is a great Mother’s Day gift idea.
Most women do not take care of themselves. They are really focused on the health of their husbands, parents, in-laws, and children.
Very rarely do we see women finding time for themselves. Most of them can hardly find one hour in the day for themselves.
Give them a workout session or yoga classes as a gift and encourage them to find that time.
Depending on what physical activity your mother is interested in, you can even opt for sessions in Pilates, Zumba, dancing, tennis, or badminton.
2. Meditation Classes
Meditation is a powerful tool that can help improve your mental health, especially if you are dealing with narcissists on a regular basis.
Consider buying your stressed-out mother a package of guided meditation sessions for her mental well-being as a Mother’s Day gift.
This Mother’s Day gift idea can help improve your mother’s mental and emotional well-being, thus aiding in her physical health.
3. Therapy/Healing Program
You can sponsor a therapy or healing program for your mother.
Many may not seek therapy on their own, as there may not have been a cultural precedent for it in their generation. Instead, they may use religion as an alternative, which may not always be effective.
Offering a therapy or healing program could be a meaningful and supportive Mother’s Day gift idea.
4. Sleeping kit
Many women do not sleep well. Motherhood starts with poor quality of sleep. Their sleep quality can also be very low due to their partners, especially narcissistic partners.
Everyone deserves good quality sleep at the end of the day. Buy things that can enhance your mother’s quality of sleep depending on her specific issues.
It could be certain types of pillows, bedding, quilted blankets – anything depending on your mother’s specific physical conditions.
5. Self-help books
Self-help books, especially for narcissistic abuse survivors, can be a very subtle way of introducing narcissistic abuse to your mother, especially if she is ignorant about it.
This can be your first step before introducing therapy or a healing program to your mother.
You can also buy books to help with a certain issue your mother is facing.
6. Any Gadgets/Tools to make daily chores easy
Any gadgets/tools to make daily chores easy can be a great Mother’s Day gift idea.
It could be a robot vacuum cleaner, a dishwasher, an electric power scrubber, a chopper, a juicer – anything that helps your mother finish her chores more easily depending on her state of health.
This can help her find more time for things she loves doing.
Alternatively, you can help her with chores during the weekends, depending on how much time you have or how close you live to her.
7. Hobby gifts
Buying hobby gifts is another amazing Mother’s Day gift idea.
If your mother is interested in gardening, buy her some gardening tools. If she loves singing, get her a karaoke machine.
Paints, brushes, canvases, macrame kits, embroidery kits, and knitting sets are all examples of great hobby gifts.
8. Medical checkup
Sponsor their annual medical checkup if it’s not covered by insurance. Alternatively, you can sponsor other tests or medicines not covered by insurance.
9. Supplements
Consider purchasing supplements that are not covered by insurance.
According to Harvard Women’s Health Watch, women are prone to deficiencies in various vitamins and minerals due to factors such as age, hormone changes, or other reasons. The nutrients most likely to be lacking are Vitamin D, Calcium, Iron, and Vitamin B12.
10. Anything and everything that they absolutely love and enjoy
Give your moms anything they absolutely love – it could be clothes, bags, or shoes.
Take them for a trip if they enjoy traveling.
Treat them to their favorite restaurant, concert, cinema, music show, art show, or any other event they love.
Hope these Mother’s Day gift ideas help you find the perfect gift for your mother and make her life a little bit easier and happier.
“…I have so many dreams of my own, and I remember things from my childhood, from when I was a girl and a young woman, and I haven’t forgotten a thing.
So why did we think of Mom as a mom from the very beginning?
She didn’t have the opportunity to pursue her dreams, and all by herself, faced everything the era dealt her, poverty and sadness, and she couldn’t do anything about her very bad lot in life other than suffer through it and get beyond it and live her life to the very best of her ability, giving her body and her heart to it completely.
Why did I never give a thought to Mom’s dreams?”
― Please Look After Mom
